The Number One Reason Most People Are Lousy Speakers

ByBill Belew

The Number One Reason Most People Are Lousy Speakers

Cruise Ship Speaker - Belew

Cruise Ship Speaker – Belew

Ever wonder why people are lousy speakers?

Ever wonder why most people are lousy speakers?

I think I know the answer. And it is NOT because they are afraid of getting up in front of people.

Indeed, public speaking is the number one fear. Bigger than the fear of dying for most.

At a funeral, the guy in the box is more at ease than the guy giving the eulogy. Of course, that probably depends on how the guy or gal in the box lived their lives. And whether you believe in heaven and hell. (I do.)

Related: Suffering from Glossophobia?

The number one reason why I think people are bad to lousy speakers is because they really have nothing to say.

There is no message that burns in them dying to get out. There is no passion for a project. There is no mission in their life.

Consequently they do not confront themselves with how can I tell people what I want them to hear.

If something resonates with you so loudly, you will find a way, the words to let people know. It’s like holding a bell and hitting it. Donk. But let the bell go and hit it with clapper and it will ring.

The most fundamental question I ask wannabe speakers is ‘If you had a crowd, what is it you want to say to them?’ All too often I see silence and reflection.

First you get a message, then we find a way to get it heard.

 

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Bill Belew administrator

Bill Belew, PhD, MFA, MSc also has a very interesting career. Bill spent a half dozen years in the US Navy climbing the enlisted ranks and making the jump to Lieutenant where he served as a Surface Warfare, Communications and Intelligence Officer. While aboard ship, in the Navy, he sailed enough nautical miles to circumnavigate the globeAfter his military time, Bill spent nearly 20 years in the Far East – Japan, China, Russia and India where he taught university and created and grew his own language school throughout Japan and Far East Russia.Bill speaks to audiences of all size, countless times yearly. He has a network of 4000+ individuals who follow him in the Silicon Valley Bay Area to learn about Social Media/inbound/content marketing. He is a weekly guest on the Social Network Station broadcast to 90+ countries from the University of Nevada Las Vegas.More than 75,000,000 people have viewed over 125,000,000 pages in his network of sites.Bill is represented by 4 cruise ship agencies that send him, literally, anywhere and everywhere in the world, and is a principal of SpeakOnCruises.com

    1 Comment so far

    Rick deutschPosted on  10:04 am - Nov 24, 2013

    A corollary reason: ya gotta want it. This should not be
    a hobby. … hours of learning, developing
    a unique message and rehearsing. It’s
    NOT easy to be a speaker. Develop into being
    an expert then share that. It’s not about
    You. “ya gotta want it.”

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