Ever wonder why people are lousy speakers?
Ever wonder why most people are lousy speakers?
I think I know the answer. And it is NOT because they are afraid of getting up in front of people.
Indeed, public speaking is the number one fear. Bigger than the fear of dying for most.
At a funeral, the guy in the box is more at ease than the guy giving the eulogy. Of course, that probably depends on how the guy or gal in the box lived their lives. And whether you believe in heaven and hell. (I do.)
The number one reason why I think people are bad to lousy speakers is because they really have nothing to say.
There is no message that burns in them dying to get out. There is no passion for a project. There is no mission in their life.
Consequently they do not confront themselves with how can I tell people what I want them to hear.
If something resonates with you so loudly, you will find a way, the words to let people know. It’s like holding a bell and hitting it. Donk. But let the bell go and hit it with clapper and it will ring.
The most fundamental question I ask wannabe speakers is ‘If you had a crowd, what is it you want to say to them?’ All too often I see silence and reflection.
First you get a message, then we find a way to get it heard.